Anonymous said: I've known this guy for just about a year now and he and I got very close and everyone thinks we're dating, he just found out that I self harm and he's making a big deal about it and I'd rather he did'nt. I really care for him and I really don't want him to look at me differently because of that and he barely talks to me because of it and I really don't want to lose him as a friend. he said he'd talk again if I promised not to do it anymore but I have urges to do it all the time, please help.

I’ve been in a similar situation, but not exactly, but close enough to say the least. Obviously this guy cares about you, and honestly? There’s not much more too it than - Which do you want more the razor blade/lighter or him? Don’t go hiding it from him/lying about it, because if he finds out he’ll be done with you. Just slowly ease out of self-harming, for your friendship and your own sake. I know it’s hard, but it’ll be okay, the urge may always be there, but find something that takes your mind off from it. 

Anonymous said: if my bestfriend, who's a guy, has made me crry so many times, should i still be friends with him?

Probably not. If he continues to make you cry, what kind of friendship is that? You don’t deserve that, no one does.